The words Introvert and Extrovert have been flying round recently like they’re going out of fashion. People all of a sudden seem to be using them left right and centre and if I am totally honest with you I didn’t really know which one was which. So I decided to do a bit of digging, I was after all quite intrigued. Which one was I? What if I were neither and I fell into no category? Was there such thing as a non-trevert? What even did they mean?
Apparently the general perception of Introvert and Extrovert seems to be that Introverts are shy and Extroverts are outgoing. But that is not strictly true. I have been looking into some full-on research about introverts versus extroverts, and I think I’m much closer to understanding what the terms introvert and extrovert actually mean. There are a few theories about the differences between introverts and extroverts, and some research shows that our genetic makeup has a lot to do with it. Instead of it being genetic it is to do with where we get our energy from.
Psychologist Hans Eysenck discovered that extroverts and introverts have different levels of arousal, which is “the extent to which our minds and bodies are alert and responsive to stimulation” not just sexually. People with extroverted tendencies have lower rate of arousal, which explains why they usually look for stimulations and excitements from their surroundings and other external matters. Pretty interesting right. I bet you are now all thinking of your friends and what they are most like.
Introvert comes from Latin intro, “inward,” and vertere, “turning.” It describes a person who tends to turn inward mentally. However, this does not mean they are generally shy. Most introverts care a great deal about people, but they prefer to engage with them one-on-one rather than in a group. Introverts find small talk a little uncomfortable too and would rather just sit in silence.
Contrary to popular belief the ‘social butterfly’ can have an introverted personality, however, they may need to re-charge by themselves. Don’t pressure yourself to be more extroverted. As you think deeply, express your thoughts how you want, you are developing authentic and meaningful relationships not some bullshit basic fake stuff so many people desire. At the same time, don’t criticize extroverts for being obnoxious or annoying, they are simply expressing their emotions too.
Extrovert comes from the latin word, “vertere”, meaning “to turn”. See that both introvert and extrovert coming pretty much from the same meaning. It describes a person who is
Now an ambivert is a weird one. Surprisingly this is most of the population. Right now people are deciding whether they are either or and not taking into account the middle ground. Ambiverts recharge and regain their energy through a mixture of social interaction and alone time. You can have traits from both sides, you are more flexible than others, because you are equally comfortable being alone and with people.
But how do we decide which one we are? To be honest you do not have to categorise yourself to fit into one or the other. I think it al depends our mood and the situation. For example if i am in a party mood then get me to the centre of attention, champagne and dares… tired and hormonal… give me cake and music on my own in bed with the cat… it really depends on the moment. If i HAD to categorise myself I would probably say Ambivert, I think I am a real middle grounder and am happy doing what I want. But before reading into it I considered myself an Introvert and questioned everything I did. I am not ashamed of being what I thought was an Introvert, and yes, something I probably am.
What are your thoughts, do you consider yourself any of the above?