What defines a ‘Good Mum’? | Raising Evelyn
What defines you as being a ‘Good Mum’?
Is it the healthy diet? or the endless gifts? or what about the attendance to every single school play? or the time you spend with your children?
Well really, it is a combination of all of these and finding a happy medium.
I have recently been asking myself this question. I am pretty good at thinking of all the things I should be doing like giving Evelyn more varieties of foods or maybe she should be socialising more.
But what does being ‘a good mum’ really mean?
There are plenty of people who can and will assure you that you are ‘doing it right’ by their own reference and are very passionate that their way is most certainly the best way. You can get so bogged down with the idea of if you are, in fact, ‘a good mum’.
I reached out to the mum’s of the world and asked them what they thought a good mum was, here are their ideas;
” The fact that you worry if you’re a good mum! The thought of not being good enough and wanting to do the best you possibly can for your children, straight away shows that you are an amazing mum who cares and loves their children so much”
“The sacrifices you make for your children. I have often gone without dinner so Ezrae can have food. And that physical pain you get in your heart when she cried when she was a newborn, or later on when she’s upset or when she does something new. The pain of love, your body doesn’t know how to deal with such big emotions, so you get a pain in your heart.”
“I think it’s putting your kids before yourself and being willing to die for them if you had to, teaching them right from wrong, teaching them to be independent, strong, caring and loving. Most of all letting them know that you are always there for them, no matter what. ”
“There is no one perfect way to be a good mother. Each situation is unique. Each mother has different challenges, different skills and abilities, and certainly different children. The choice is different and unique for each mother and each family.”
But ultimately I think we all strive to do the best we can for them – love them unconditionally, keep them safe and teach them all they need to know as they get older.”
” Patience. Understanding. Love”
– Sian Louise
I think every mum wants their child to grow up loving, caring, grateful, happy and healthy. There is not much more a mum can ask for.
There are a lot of mum’s out there that may be home in on one thing. Maybe they shower their children with lots of presents, maybe they smother them with love, maybe they spend every waking minute with them… what ever you do, all your child really wants and needs is your time.
Now I am not saying that is what defines a good mum, I am not saying that at all. Every mum is different and every single person is in a different situation, but children will always remember the times you were there and the times you weren’t.
What defines a ‘Good Mum’ … well maybe if we ask the kids they will tell us and you will realise what they say is where you are going wrong or going right. How you feel to what they say should make you realise if you’re doing it right.
Tenner says you are!
My intuition tells me its getting them to bed on time more often than not. It’s about hearing them cry and doing whatever you can to console them. It’s about eating right. It is about treating them in such a way that they hopefully won’t grow up to be a spoilt ungrateful brat. All these things, to me, make me ‘a good mum’. Ultimately motherhood comes with no guide book or rule book, you just gotta kinda wing it and hope for the best.