Instagram Just a note

Instagram… The art of being hideous yet wonderful.

Instagram is something most of us have a severe love-hate relationship with. We love it and hate it for so many reasons – all of us do. For the past year or so I have found a strong love for the social media app, although recently that is hanging in the balance but that is for another post. Interior design ideas, fashion tips, best places to eat… you name it, it is there.

Social Media is a wonderful thing if used correctly. And that is the thing- as long as it is used correctly. Social constructs dictate how  we must act or behave in certain situations and when social media, such as Instagram started, it was a new thing and nobody new how to start. What was your first post or photo? I bet you look back now and kind of cringe a little right? Look how far you have come. From over filtering the hell out of a photo to now only really changing the brightness or shadow.

We are heading for a time of abundance where social media is only going to spiral even more. Look at what we have… look at Instagram for instance.  A platform where we can share pretty much anything to the world and use hashtags to send it across it too. Someone it Taiwan can see you photo within seconds of you posting it – how crazy is that when you really think about it. Before Social Media we either had to send them via email or print them out via postal order.

Instagram is more than just a friendship platform, it is for business, critics, the lost, the found, celebrities, families… anything and anyone. Hell even some peoples pets have their own ages (ridiculous I know but sadly true). It can be a photo album, a story, an advertisement … literally anything you want it to be.
Personally I love it. What a fantastic way to be able to communicate… if used in the right way. For me, as a blogger, people kind of look at me as a critic, I give my honest opinion in order to help others. Some people will like it some people won’t but it is the likes of Instagram that has given me a voice and now I can shout it for the world to hear.
I started out on Instagram about 5 years ago personally and about 18 months ago for my business. I have developed my blog into something that I am proud of and it has been Instagram that has allowed me to advertise and grow organically at the rate I have.

So I guess this is more of an appreciation post for Instagram. Thank you for giving us amazing ideas and a platform to grow our own.

soul healing

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We all know that sometimes life can really grind you down. There are times when the littlest of things can set you off. Whether it be tears, a bad day, a bad week, an ‘episode’… it can be the straw that broke the camels back.
Over the past year I’ve been trying to focus on being a better person for many different reasons. It takes a lot for me to snap and when I do it is not pretty. I am one of those people that’ll sit there and fester until the cup overfills.
A few years ago there was one particular reason why I felt I should be making the change to be better but sometimes when that thing is prominent in your life all the time it is hard.

So I wanted to do a little post about Soul Healing and how I healed mine and became the person I wanted to be.

Soul Healing is different for all. But for the majority of people it is ‘healing a secret hurt’. Soul Healing is a much deeper form of healing which looks at the causes of the problem and not merely at the symptoms so to speak. I think everyone knows deep down a reason why they feel the way they feel and the real root of the problem.
I know I did. Instantly I knew this particular thing was going to be a problem. I knew that it would eat away at me like a Lion to carcass and for a long time I let it. And then all of a sudden that feeling was permanent. No longer was it just when the issue was brought up or it arose again, it was there all the time- it became me!

I knew and felt what the problem was all the time and one night I sat there watching Mrs.Doubtfire and it hit me. I literally sat there and thought ‘Oh my God!’ Bloody deal with it and stop festering. So right there and then I knew it had to change. I know people say just stop- but like smoking it is not that easy.

Little and often! That is what they say right? So I took measures to start eliminating the little things until I could tackle the big things. Then I started to do other things that helped with those bigger things.
For me I started spending more time with my family and being the best partner and step-mum I could be. Now this doesn’t have to cost the world, simply a walk in the woods, building dens and discovering weird things like grass snakes or red top mushrooms (Amanita muscaria). And before you know it you have walked your 10,000 steps, you have laughed until your face hurts and your Sunday afternoon has gone. Or even making sure you eat right. Pizza and chips gives an hour or half hour of happiness and then an evening of ‘I’m hungry’ (that’s my partner too haha). Healthy food, happy family. I know it is hard to eat right, life gets in the way all the time but making sure 2 or 3 meals (at least) a week a pure solid goodness is a way to keep the smiles on faces. More energy and less sickness has taken over my household and it is so much better for it- We are all so much better for it.

So then I moved onto the bigger things. I started with social media and used that to help me eliminate the issue and then on to physically confronting it. Ironically, this shouldn’t have even been an issue on the first place but hey-ho.
The point I am trying to make is that however you feel right this moment- there was one point in your life where someone has p*ssed you off or something has happened that has eaten away at you a little- But dealing with those things is different for everyone, it all depends how thick-skinned you are. Start with the little things- I promise you will start to notice a happier you!

Basically, Soul Healing (to a certain extent) is another term for starting to no longer giving a Sh*t! Sometimes it is hard, but you have to move on to preserve your sanity. I think the effort I have put in in the past year has made me a much better person and I can safely say that I AM A GOOD PERSON and I know what I do are in the best interest of the ones I love. Life is what you make of it. Don’t exist- LIVE!

‘Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment’ – Buddha

The words Introvert and Extrovert have been flying round recently like they’re going out of fashion. People all of a sudden seem to be using them left right and centre and if I am totally honest with you I didn’t really know which one was which. So I decided to do a bit of digging, I was after all quite intrigued. Which one was I? What if I were neither and I fell into no category? Was there such thing as a non-trevert? What even did they mean?
Apparently the general perception of Introvert and Extrovert seems to be that Introverts are shy and Extroverts are outgoing. But that is not strictly true. I have been looking into some full-on research about introverts versus extroverts, and I think I’m much closer to understanding what the terms introvert and extrovert actually mean. There are a few theories about the differences between introverts and extroverts, and some research shows that our genetic makeup has a lot to do with it. Instead of it being genetic it is to do with where we get our energy from.

Psychologist Hans Eysenck discovered that extroverts and introverts have different levels of arousal, which is “the extent to which our minds and bodies are alert and responsive to stimulation” not just sexually. People with extroverted tendencies have lower rate of arousal, which explains why they usually look for stimulations and excitements from their surroundings and other external matters. Pretty interesting right. I bet you are now all thinking of your friends and what they are most like.

Introvert

Introvert comes from Latin intro, “inward,” and vertere, “turning.” It describes a person who tends to turn inward mentally. However, this does not mean they are generally shy. Most introverts care a great deal about people, but they prefer to engage with them one-on-one rather than in a group. Introverts find small talk a little uncomfortable too and would rather just sit in silence.

Contrary to popular belief the ‘social butterfly’ can have an introverted personality, however, they may need to re-charge by themselves. Don’t pressure yourself to be more extroverted. As you think deeply, express your thoughts how you want, you are developing authentic and meaningful relationships not some bullshit basic fake stuff so many people desire.  At the same time, don’t criticize extroverts for being obnoxious or annoying, they are simply expressing their emotions too.

Extrovert

Extrovert comes from the latin word, “vertere”, meaning “to turn”. See that both introvert and extrovert coming pretty much from the same meaning.  It describes a person who is concerned with the physical and social environment. They don’t mind being under the spotlight, or the center of attention. However, spending too much alone time drains them mentally- the totally opposite of introvert. People think you hog the limelight all the time ( which you do kinda) because you are insecure about yourself, but don’t let them stop you from sharing your thoughts and opinions.

Ambivert

Now an ambivert is a weird one. Surprisingly this is most of the population. Right now people are deciding whether they are either or and not taking into account the middle ground. Ambiverts recharge and regain their energy through a mixture of social interaction and alone time. You can have traits from both sides,  you are more flexible than others, because you are equally comfortable being alone and with people.

But how do we decide which one we are? To be honest you do not have to categorise yourself to fit into one or the other. I think it al depends our mood and the situation. For example if i am in a party mood then get me to the centre of attention, champagne and dares… tired and hormonal… give me cake and music on my own in bed with the cat… it really depends on the moment. If i HAD to categorise myself I would probably say Ambivert, I think I am a real middle grounder and am happy doing what I want. But before reading into it I considered myself an Introvert and questioned everything I did. I am not ashamed of being what I thought was an Introvert, and yes, something I probably am.

What are your thoughts, do you consider yourself any of the above?

 

So at the weekend I took a day trip to Broadstairs, the coastal town near Margate in Kent. This is actually very close to the village where I first lived. Not many of you know my story (maybe Ill tell it one day ) but I have lived in A LOT of houses. But this was the first one the very very first one. I love Broadstairs, the sandy beaches, the chips, the ice creams, the quaint back streets! I love re-living all the memories of my mum taking me when I was little.

You simply CANNOT go to Broadstairs without getting a Morellis. Their sorbets and simply to die for. They have some odd homemade flavours that are just pure bliss. This time saw me having their white chocolate and strawberry cheesecake flavour and Phil having the white chocolate and coffee. 

I am going to be honest this is one of my favourite things about Broadstairs. Just off from the beach towards Stone Bay there is a steep alley. If you go up this alley and turn right at the top there is a walk way to the next beach and the walls are filled with shells and beautiful stones. I remember putting my hands inside them as a child and feeling the smoothness. I cant believe they are still there some 25 years later, even if they are eroded a little.

Broadstairs is known for many things. Initially it was known for its ship building and more commonly known for its smuggling. There are still many tunnels and caves which were used by smugglers to hide their contraband which I believe you can go and see. For such a small town it has so much history. In the summer it is always so busy, you cannot park anywhere, but if you can it is the best place to be. There are some great restaurants for food and of course the ice cream and the sandy beaches offer a great place for kids to play. Or childlike adults in my case!
This weekend we walked along the shoreline and lost ourselves in… well life! We talked of our family and how soon it’ll grow and our plans for holidays and fun. Broadstairs is a calm peaceful place filled with exciting happiness. Even on a cold windy day Broadstairs always makes me feel ‘home’.


Being a blogger of any kind is hard for anyone. It takes time and perseverance. If you saw my post The Reality of Blogging you would have heard all about it.
However there are so many reasons why I love being a blogger. I could write all day about this subject because there are so many reasons but here are some.

Friendship/Community– I didn’t realise how many other bloggers where out there when I first started blogging. I also didn’t realise how nice they all (most) were. I recently had a message from a fellow blogger who didn’t feel an item they were asked to review would suit their blog and so they put my name forward for me to maybe do a piece on it instead. Not all bloggers are rude and think they are better than others as they have that ‘blogger’ status. There are some of us who are just lovely.

Variety– No two days are ever the same. One day you are trying a mascara that you may have just fallen in love with and other days you are basking in bath bombs all day. You get to try out products that you may never normally get to try and the different types. I think I have tried pretty much every type of different curling mascara wand possible, all different shapes and sizes. But I loved every minute of it. It is so varied.

Empowerment– You probably heard me talk about this just recently but for me it is so important. There are too many women out there who feel not good enough or not pretty enough I want to help learn that they ARE beautiful and they ARE good enough and for me I try to use my blog to do that. If I can just make one persona  day smile- then that is good enough for me.

Passion- I think it is so important to feel passionate about something. Whether it be a blog, a job, a love, family, friendship, hobby…. To be passionate about something (for me) makes me feel like I have a purpose. If you have no passion about anything or you have no hobby then are you even enjoying life… surely that is just existing rather than living. I am so passionate about my blog. I love writing and beauty- so what better to write a blog.

Excitement- I do partly write this blog due to pure excitement. When I get a new beauty product or a new cushion or even a candle that smells divine I want to shout it to the world. You know when you get something great like a bargain and you just have to tell your sister or best friend about it- well I get that with most of my blog posts. The excitement of wanting to tell you all about these things means I just can’t not! I love it!

These are just some of the reasons why I love being a blogger. There are so so many more but here are a few. What is your passion?